I love My Fitness Pal. It makes me smile.
Members can share snippets of their weight loss, or gain, journey using the blog feature. I haven’t done that because, well, 3 WordPress blogs are enough. Today, a member shared this:
Title: Ghetto Rack
Post: “It’s crude, rough, ghetto, cheap, lazy, not-even-sanded, and the least expensive piece of workout gear I’ve gotten so far.. but it’ll get the job done for a little longer till I have to either get a gym membership or buy some equipment…
but I made it myself, in a mini-skirt… LOL!
(in my defense, I really DO know how to use power tools, squares and the like, but seriously, who the hell cares what it looks like when it’s in my basement?) (not pictured but it has a cross bar for support across the bottom now.)”
I didn’t like what she wrote. I didn’t like the words she used. The whole thing made me uncomfortable. So, I sent her a message. Honestly, I didn’t know why I didn’t like it. I just didn’t this is what I said:
Subject: I thought about not sending this
A friend of mine commented on your post, “Ghetto Rack” and so it showed up in my news feed. I clicked on your blog and read your post. For some reason, one that I can’t articulate very well right now, it doesn’t sit well with me. While describing your “ghetto” rack you said, ” It’s crude, rough, ghetto, cheap, lazy, not-even-sanded….”
When I, and many others, think ghetto, we think people and place. I think of two places and types of people in particular – How German’s imprisoned and classified Jews and how the United States houses and often describes Black Americans.
This may be my issue, and I’ll completely own that, but I just wanted to share with you my thoughts on your post.
Thanks so much for reading and good luck on your journey,
Sorry to offend, not intentional. To each his or her own I suppose.
I’m glad I didn’t spend much time thinking about what I sent her because she didn’t spend much time thinking about her response. Granted, my email could’ve been better. I own that. But, I spend all day maneuvering this and similar topics and just didn’t feel like being more detailed. I also didn’t want to scold her. I just wanted to share with her my initial thoughts upon reading her words. It wasn’t about offense. I truly believe a HUGE chunk of racism still exists because we’re afraid of offending one another. That fear prevents dialogue. Instead of embracing dialogue we cling to the similar paradigm-ed and offer up apologies after offenses. I’m not offended. At least I don’t feel offended. I wanted her to think about her words and the racist system they may or may promote. I sent that email hoping for dialogue. That didn’t happen. I’m not going to respond. I just don’t care enough about this situation to dedicate any more words or effort.
If you have any more thoughts on this matter. I’d TOTALLY be open to dialogue with you. =]